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Daily Zen Living / Zen Office Hours


Dear friends,

On a super sunny Wednesday I have a super nerving topic to talk about.
It’s not the daily Zen blog post you are accustomed to, I know, but I just have to get this out of my system.

The other day, I was in the company of a person I know, let’s name her Madame X.

We had a business meeting scheduled and while we were discussing a future business collaboration, a friend of Madame X approached our table to say “Hello”. Nothing out of the ordinary here. After the cordial hellos and “How have you been?” questions, the two of them started talking. And talking. And talking. It literally took at least 15 -20 minutes for them to talk, while I was there, waiting for them to finish their prolonged chit-chat.

First, I smiled and occasionally nodded my head, in a failed attempt to “join” their conversion and to feel less like a decor piece. Nothing happened. They continued talking. Next, I checked out my phone – you know, the silly semi-automatic gesture we employ when we’re trying to look busy while doing nothing.

Madame X and her friend continued talking like it was the end of the world and this was their last chance to catch up and to go through all imaginable topics like “Have you heard what X did?”, latest fashion trends & how to fix a flat tyre.

Mon Dieu, for me it felt like ages. I kept on going back and forth in my head, whether to politely invite the person’s friend to take a seat (my seat) and to invent an excuse and to leave. For good.

It is so out of place, so unprofessional and not to mention, ahem, totally rude! I’m not talking about saying “Hello” and exchanging a quick “How are you?”, that’s totally normal, but gossiping chatting for 20 minutes while you & I were in the middle of something important, like trying to set up a business partnership? Really?

Needless to say, this business contract will never go through. Why? Because it is clear to me that Madame X & I are not on the same page when it comes to elementary social courtesy. I may be old-fashioned, but in my book:

It doesn’t matter how professionally skilled a person is, if they’re lacking in showing respect to the person sitting next to them.

And by the way, let me just introduce myself, since Madame X didn’t have the decency to do that after 20 minutes.

Hi! My name is Bianca and I assure you, I’m not wearing my invisible mantle! At least not today. 🙂

Uhhhh. That was good!

Now coming back to you, dear Zen friends. Did you ever experience something similar? Have you ever been treated (intentional or not) like a third wheel? If so, what did you do? I’m really curious to know.

Wishing you a great day ahead,
Bianca Zen 2

*Photo via imgarcade


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