Fear of Failure or Fear of Success?

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Heart to Heart

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Dear friends,

Here’s a quick question for you: do you know those dreams of yours…the big, big dreams that keep you up all night?
I have them too! I have what I call “My Favourite Dreams” that I keep returning to. You know: writing a book, moving to a tropical island, opening an NGO for kids, traveling the world.

I talked about them in several posts on this blog, but today my daydreaming routine was a little bit different. This morning, as I was going through my closet to pick something to wear, I asked myself:

What if it’s not failure that I fear, but rather having immense success?

Ha! What do you think? What if we subconsciously fear and postpone the social exposure, the attention & popularity + the inherent dose of naysayers & envy that come as a side dish with success? What if at times we self-sabotage ourselves?

I for one recognised myself as being a perfectionist, a recovering control freak and a pro procrastinator. I admit. Parts of me are just that, as other parts of me are a go-getter, an ambitious dreamer and a doer. However, I thought and accepted all these aspects as being part of the whole Me-assembly and never thought of second-guessing whether it’s the fear of success that is holding me hostage in the back of my mind.

As I write this post, I’m sitting in a Starbucks caffe and think that there are two categories of people: those who fear and do everything they can in order to avoid failure & rejection, and there are others who do everything they can – subconsciously or not- to have some success, but they keep it at a decent, normal & comfortable level.

While I know for sure that I’m going back and forth between the two “leagues”, at least I have identified another piece of the puzzle of what it means to be me.

What about you, dear Zen friends? What do you fear most today? Success or lack of it?
Can’t wait to read your answers.

Wishing you a great afternoon. Be inspired and stay on your game,
Bianca Zen 2

 *Photo via dailydoseofstuff



  1. I’m not quite sure. 🙂 I’m usually quite brave, even when I feel afraid. I go for what I want. Sometimes there is a price, but experience is the only way one can learn and grow. xoxo

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    • That’s so true, slowaholic. We will never know until we go out and test the waters.
      Experience is by far the best answer to all our questions.

      Thank you for tuning in! It’s lovely to have you here!
      xx, Bianca

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